When I was little I remember my childhood being a happy time and was grateful to have a brother to play games with and be my little side kick. Mum always said I used to be like a little mother hen around him when he was born which maybe led me to want to get into childcare š idk!
But I also remember that sibling rivalry and the fighting and the arguments, I remember shouting āMum tell himā constantly.. Iām sure she remembers this too lol! I was the oldest and most times got the blame, which I guess is normal (even though the youngest is usually to blame šsorry bro lol) But for the most part it was happy times. My brother was my very first friend and confidante who would have easily had my back if Iād been bullied and vice versa.Ā Not everyone is blessed to have a sibling and as much as my two fight and argue at times they wouldnāt be without each other.
I have to point out that it doesnāt matter what the age gap is either.. siblings will fight and argue regardless. Especially if they only have each other. My two are 5 years apart and I just assumed theyād be best friends from day one. They have always been close but my son had us to himself for 5 years and all things considered he does extremely well sharing his parents with her.Ā
I find that there are times when he needs one on one, even though heās almost 10 now he still craves that time with just me or just his dad. Even more so now heās getting older and I embrace that because some day heāll be with all his friends and wonāt want to do stuff with his parents lol!
My daughter is just as much in need of one on one. She is the jealous one and doesnāt like to think sheās not getting time with mummy. But we have our special days too. Thereās something to be said about spending individual time with different parents. I donāt ever remember spending quality time with my dad growing up but my brother would go to air shows with him when he wasnāt working and Iād be with mum. Thatās probably why mum and I are very close now. But Iām close to my dad now as an adult and I donāt resent him for that, but I do remember and I always think our kids will remember too. Making memories is so important.
My kids do act like they despise each other at times but they have their moments. Does anyone else’s kids fight all day long and then right before bedtime are giggly and hugging each other declaring how much they love each other? Argh š drives me mad lol!
But Iām so glad they have each other. They keep each other busy when Iām making dinner, they act silly, they make each other laugh and they have each otherās backs. Thatās as much as I can ask! If they are as close as what my brother and I are when they are adults then Iāll be happy šĀ
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